or will one of them invaribly end up being attracted to the other?
They'll be attracted to each other; it's just a matter of time.
My husband and I were the best of 'friends' until one day, while at the beach with a group of peers, he declared his love and admiration towards me. It's been wonderful ever since!
The "love" and "sex" thing will always get in the way of a man and a woman's platonic friendship.
DY
in view of the transit bombings, do you feel that police should be able to search you or your bags at anytime?
Search away!
Nothing to hide or be ashamed of. No problem on my part!
Perhaps those human rights activists would prefer to be blown up?!
Yesterday, while on my drive home from work, I heard Dr. Laura speak a total truth: "Activists are among the angriest people there are. To be an activist of any sort is to always look for an excuse to be angry about something".
DY
this is a big tradition for many in the hispanic culture.
but how can a witness have or pay for one of these?
marking a rite of passage.
Big tradition in the Mexican culture. Big, big, big coming of age celebration!!!
I've never heard of JWs celebrating one. However, do know of JWs that privately celebrate theirs and their children't birthdays every single year. They make it seem like a vacation, or just a night out, etc.
Very clever indeed. I'm of the thought that the birthday celebration nonsense of JWs will soon be a thing of the past. Birthdays are milestones that need to be celebrated. In good taste and moderation, of course.
DY
i'm new to this forum and hope to get some advice from the experts.
my exwife is a fully jw dedicated do it all convert had decided to put our 9 y.o.
daughter to home school.
I'm not for home schooling children, unless the school system is really bad or dangerous.
A few JW kids that I knew were home schooled (by parents that didn't have a good education to begin with) lacked social skills terribly. None went on to get a higher education.
DY
there can be little doubt that the wts 'shunning' policy is a dangerous weapon.
each year tens of thousands of people are disfellowshipped, and experience the reality of being shunned.
many of them still believing the wts doctrine that if they die in this condition they will shortly be executed by god at har-meggedon and die an eternal and disgraceful death some leaving the faith altogether.
To answer the subject question of what shunning did to me, I can say that it made me come back.
I just couldn't stand the treatment as if I was dead by my whole family. It was horrible to me!
One my siblings walked away from the WBTS, not df'd or da'd just became involved in other acitivities so much that there was hardly any time for the JW stuff, and for a while was given the same 'as dead' treatment. However, this sibling was stronger emotionally than I ever was. She moved away and built her whole life all over again, finished her graduate education, got a new set of friends according to her studies and interests and now travels all over the world.
It took some 5 years or so, but my family finally came around and started seeking her out. Now she's the one that limits them. Things are done her way, and when she visits they all treat her so nice and never bring up WBTS stuff. She proved them all wrong about the JW mentality that she'd be doomed to unhappiness and that her life would be trash for leaving Jehovah.
You go Sis!!! I should've held on to my resolve, but my love for them was stronger at the time. Perhaps in the near future I'll get that chance again.
DY
i hate pop ups on my computer.
i can't stand getting salespeople calling from the same company 3 times in a day!
i hate being behind asian or indian drivers........
I hate tardiness.
DY
do you feel that you are still bitter towards jw's?
or do you feel that you are better off without them?
maybe you feel both bitter and better?.
I'm in a good place in terms of my own personal development. I've broken free from the emotional/mental domination the WBTS had on me. Now I look at it as just another religion among thousands, with its good, its bad, and its ugly.
I accentuate the good and positive and move on in life with a broader and much more open mind about things and people in general.
I deal with JWs according to the way they individually deal with me. Those that consider themselves too spiritual for me, I let them choose their path. Maybe someday they'll come to their senses, or when they need a favor from me they'll find me. I couldn't care any less about their attitudes.
I'm in good speaking terms with my hubby and my immediate relatives and have a much broader network of friends and acquaintances. That's what really matters to me. Life is good.
DY
we "faded" more than a decade ago.
at least, we began to fade.
it took a few years before they gave up on us.
Cellist,
My fade is the slowest I've known thus far because most of my relatives are firm JWs and I love them to pieces. Outside of the JW stuff, they're the nicest bunch of people I know and can't take yet the fact that I may lose them if I stop the JW facade altogether.
I do as least as possible to still be considered one of them, just to keep the lines of communication open between me and my folks.
They do know, however, that I'm 'spiritually weak', but as long as I'm still considered a JW they treat me very nicely. I just love them all so much!
My husband is very much into it, so there's my story. He also knows that I couldn't care any less about the Organization, but he loves me so he doesn't give me much grief about it anymore.
There will come a time in which I'll only attend Sunday meetings, and I won't knock on doors anymore. That will be more than enough for me.
DY
i made an interesting find last evening.
i stumbled across a site purporting to be a jehovah's witness reform movement.
while it sees value in jehovah's witnesses, its primary purpose is to reform the governing body.
I notice that nowadays it's very difficult to get disfellowshipped, as opposed to much earlier days when just about anything would get a person disfellowshipped at the drop of a hat.
I think that's somewhat an improvement.
More improvements to come. I'm certain of that as the old policy-makers retire to their graves. May they and their old policies rest in peace!
DY
a year ago, i would've never attended.
what a difference a little time makes, huh?
Rather than 'apostafest', those gatherings should be called "people that threw the baby out with the bath water fest".
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The stories I've read about in this forum... talk about decadence and going off the deep end!!!!? Count me out of those scenes!
DY
